Social-Sexual Deviance

Life as a Social-Sexual Deviant
A serial college campus rapist drew the adjacent image to illustrate his life as a social-sexual deviant. He explained the image portrays a person balancing on barbed wire to show his precarious lifestyle requires planning and poses multiple risks. The sun obscured by clouds reflects the ever-present potential to lose his freedom should he fail to conceal his deviant identity. The towers obscured by clouds reflect incarceration and the recognition life imprisonment is the long-term consequence of his deviant conduct.
Social Deviance


Social Inclusion
Alfred Adler (1870 – 1937) viewed humans as social animals.1, 2, 3 This perspective simply means that reducing human behaviors to the lowest common denominator our seemingly complex behavioral repertoire is motivated to fulfill the social desire to belong. Contribution, cooperation, acceptance, and intimacy are the four benchmarks for healthy human behavior. Honesty is the fabric of a socially healthy human’s relationships. Ideally, all people would use healthy behavior to derive social inclusion. Unfortunately, the human condition is far from perfect. Individuals develop their style of feeling socially significant, these styles being a blend of respectful behavior and misbehavior.4 Unhealthy humans use misbehavior to fuel a selfish sense of social inclusion.  The actor attaches to one or more people and steals life energy from other people via the four goals of misbehavior: attention, control, avenging real or imagined wrongs, and discouragement.4 Dishonesty is the fabric of a socially unhealthy human’s relationships.5

A social deviant relies exclusively on the four goals of misbehavior to fulfill his/her distorted sense of social inclusion and personal significance.5, 6 Akin to mistletoe, the social-sexual deviant, is an ‘energy bandit’.7, 5 Among male social-sexual deviants, Personality Disorder, is a common diagnostic feature.  Among female-social-sexual deviants, Borderline Personality Features is a common diagnostic element. Among male and female social-sexual deviants, childhood exposure to violence is common historical injury source.

Goals of Healthy Social Behavior
CONTRIBUTION: Taking on an activity or task for the purpose of helping another is the noblest motive to human behavior. It requires the actor to derive satisfaction from doing right without recognition or praise.  The actor’s modesty enables group recognition.

COOPERATION: Working together to promote harmony and mutual benefit defines cooperative behavior. Clear communication and acknowledging individual differences are social skills that people develop to enable cooperative behavior.

ACCEPTANCE: Accepting individual differences enables autonomy. Unfettered by dependence, individuals are free to compromise and coexist. Acceptance enables healthy boundaries with people who use misbehavior to belong.

INTIMACY: Intimacy is a byproduct of contribution, cooperation and acceptance and the principle objective to healthy social behavior. Honesty is the fabric to social-sexual relationships.

Goals of Misbehavior
ATTENTION: Engaging in an activity or task to bring attention to self is the first goal to misbehavior. It is the simplest misbehavior form. An unquenchable thirst for attention fuels social behavior. The actor’s self-serving mantra that is Notice me or else.

POWER: Striving to control or dominate others defines power based behavior. Intimidating and/or defiant communication styles coupled with judging individual differences as a threat are the social styles that habituate as one becomes intoxicated by this misbehavior objective.

REVENGE: Hurting others to avenge real or imagined wrongs is the objective to this misbehavior. Shackled by the fear of reprisal, others are often rendered powerless to hold a differing opinion or value. The actor’s relationship bonds are compliance and dependence.

ASSUMED DISABILITY: Inability to live in a contributing, cooperative, accepting and honest manner is the global assumed social disability. Dishonesty is the fabric to social-sexual relationships.

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